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Growing up we are pre-programmed to be accepted in the society. We have a timeline for everything. High school at 18, undergraduate degree at 22, graduate degree by 24, married at 25, kids at 27, buying house by 30 and well settled after that. We run the mad race of the timeline and if the things dont work that way we get upset. We have poor self esteem and start labeling ourselves as a failure. To be honest the society helps you label yourself and be in the miserable position. People judge you if you dont do things according to the time line. They start judging you if you dont complete your degree on time, if you dont find the love of your life and get married at a certain age. Everyone points fingers at you that how your obesity might be a reason for you not having a husband. People tell you all weight reducing tips, or give you tips to look "pretty" for a man. I was subjected to that pre conceived notion too. My parents were not like that but many people who I call my family and friends did judge me at the "poor" choices I made in life without even thinking for a second that what worked for them might not work for me. They hurt me with their judgmental and harsh words because I was just not part of the mad race of the cultural and societal timeline.
After going through some tough years in my life, I started thinking differently. As I stated earlier that I was also part of that societal race to be settled by the time I am 30, I struggled a lot. With education, with personal growth and with relationships. I always wanted to be a marine biologist. I wanted to do research on dolphins to help with different therapies for human beings. Sometimes getting out in a open environment and get closer to nature helps you heal better and quicker. I kept on switching majors because there was no marine sciences in Pakistan at undergrad level and I was not sure what I wanted to do. During my college years my parents decided to move to United States from Pakistan. It was a cultural shock for me. It was a big move. Everyone is different. My brothers were able to deal with it but I drifted away. I wanted to prove myself to the world so I started to do things that would make people proud of me. I didn't care about me. I got engaged at a very later age according to time line and then that went down the drain. Kept on trying to look for the right man but apart from frustration I found nothing. I did complete my degree but not at 22, I got engaged but not at 24, I have no house of my own, I am a 31 year old living with parents. My life timeline according to society is pathetic. The point is that, does it bother me? or it make me a horrible person? No it doesn't. Everyone has their own story. I believe that we all come with a unique story and with events happening in our lives at different times. I believe that I was supposed to complete my degree at a mature age so I did, it worked for me and was great. I didn't get married to anyone because my life had other purposes. I believe that I was kept single and had to go through this so that I could redefine myself, find my own self before I get involved with someone. If I dont love my own self how can I love someone else. I got chance to travel, I got to get experiences which many of my perfect timeline friends didn't get to enjoy. They want to live my life. Well they are not looking at the struggles of it but seemingly they see that my life is better than theirs. I believe that we need to change ourselves about the societal timeline. Everyone learns at their own pace and experiences life differently. We should not judge anyone just because they didn't do things at a specific time. I believe that whenever I am ready I will find that special someone with whom I will be able to grow even more.
I decided to take this trip just for me, so that I can be me and look for me that has been lost in the pressures of the society. I cared about everything and everyone in the world, what it did to me was gave me painful but beneficial life lessons. I work on my timeline now. I will let universe decide what needs to happen instead of being miserable by letting others dictate how I should lead my life...
After going through some tough years in my life, I started thinking differently. As I stated earlier that I was also part of that societal race to be settled by the time I am 30, I struggled a lot. With education, with personal growth and with relationships. I always wanted to be a marine biologist. I wanted to do research on dolphins to help with different therapies for human beings. Sometimes getting out in a open environment and get closer to nature helps you heal better and quicker. I kept on switching majors because there was no marine sciences in Pakistan at undergrad level and I was not sure what I wanted to do. During my college years my parents decided to move to United States from Pakistan. It was a cultural shock for me. It was a big move. Everyone is different. My brothers were able to deal with it but I drifted away. I wanted to prove myself to the world so I started to do things that would make people proud of me. I didn't care about me. I got engaged at a very later age according to time line and then that went down the drain. Kept on trying to look for the right man but apart from frustration I found nothing. I did complete my degree but not at 22, I got engaged but not at 24, I have no house of my own, I am a 31 year old living with parents. My life timeline according to society is pathetic. The point is that, does it bother me? or it make me a horrible person? No it doesn't. Everyone has their own story. I believe that we all come with a unique story and with events happening in our lives at different times. I believe that I was supposed to complete my degree at a mature age so I did, it worked for me and was great. I didn't get married to anyone because my life had other purposes. I believe that I was kept single and had to go through this so that I could redefine myself, find my own self before I get involved with someone. If I dont love my own self how can I love someone else. I got chance to travel, I got to get experiences which many of my perfect timeline friends didn't get to enjoy. They want to live my life. Well they are not looking at the struggles of it but seemingly they see that my life is better than theirs. I believe that we need to change ourselves about the societal timeline. Everyone learns at their own pace and experiences life differently. We should not judge anyone just because they didn't do things at a specific time. I believe that whenever I am ready I will find that special someone with whom I will be able to grow even more.
I decided to take this trip just for me, so that I can be me and look for me that has been lost in the pressures of the society. I cared about everything and everyone in the world, what it did to me was gave me painful but beneficial life lessons. I work on my timeline now. I will let universe decide what needs to happen instead of being miserable by letting others dictate how I should lead my life...
Work on your timeline today and dont let anyone dictate you your life story...
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